you're gonna lose
there's a saying at the casinos... "if you go in with the mindset that you're gonna lose... you're gonna lose." on the other hand, you can't go in expecting to come out a big winner either, because you're just setting yourself up for a letdown. now if you go in looking to have a good time, win or lose, whatever happens, happens... well, if you can do that, then you've realized the secret.
problem is, it's so hard to stay in the middle. overly pessimistic and you end up sabotaging the whole thing. expect too much, and you'll panic at every little glitch.
so what the hell am i talking about? i'm talking about the fact that i have over-analyzed the whole situation that i'm both sabotaging and panicking at the same time. my pessimism led me to neglect it too much, and my optimism may have scared her away. really, only one girl makes me nervous... and i think i may have blown it.
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one thing that i'm trying to instill into my mindset is to approach everything with a child-like curiosity. be curious. make it like an experiment. be playful. have fun. there's nothing to lose, and great connection/fun to be gained. if the worst case scenario happens, you still gain something and that is a learning experience. am i right?
in a previous blog, you mentioned that your spoon mantra. i discovered a new mantra this morning on my way to work. "something wonderful is about to happen" - to the ordinary person, this may sound cheesy and simple, but this is a very profound mantra that if one uses this before entering into any situation, your aura and energy surrounding yourself will immediately change where others around you will be attracted to it.
if one is afraid of being too optimistic because of a potential let-down, then guess what...that thought "let-down" alone is sabotaging the positive energy.
one can be be positive, optimistic, think like nothing is impossible, and reach a state where absolutely anything can happen and get anything one wants, without immobilizing thoughts like potential let-downs, fear of failure, or setting one's self up for disappointment.
life moves towards whatever is most on one's mind. if the goal is to get out of debt, then one will never get out of debt, cuz debt is what is on one's mind. rather, if the goal is to achieve abundance, wealth, peak health, love, and fulfillment, then one is setting him/herself up for success. - basic law of attraction.
i'm saying too much now. just trying to give you a different point-of-view. "you're gonna win"
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my response to you, dk, is that i absolutely agree. i will win. i just wish it was with this one particular person versus anyone else, and i'm over thinking it.
problem is, it's so hard to stay in the middle. overly pessimistic and you end up sabotaging the whole thing. expect too much, and you'll panic at every little glitch.
so what the hell am i talking about? i'm talking about the fact that i have over-analyzed the whole situation that i'm both sabotaging and panicking at the same time. my pessimism led me to neglect it too much, and my optimism may have scared her away. really, only one girl makes me nervous... and i think i may have blown it.
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the following is a GUEST BLOG, by dk...
one thing that i'm trying to instill into my mindset is to approach everything with a child-like curiosity. be curious. make it like an experiment. be playful. have fun. there's nothing to lose, and great connection/fun to be gained. if the worst case scenario happens, you still gain something and that is a learning experience. am i right?
in a previous blog, you mentioned that your spoon mantra. i discovered a new mantra this morning on my way to work. "something wonderful is about to happen" - to the ordinary person, this may sound cheesy and simple, but this is a very profound mantra that if one uses this before entering into any situation, your aura and energy surrounding yourself will immediately change where others around you will be attracted to it.
if one is afraid of being too optimistic because of a potential let-down, then guess what...that thought "let-down" alone is sabotaging the positive energy.
one can be be positive, optimistic, think like nothing is impossible, and reach a state where absolutely anything can happen and get anything one wants, without immobilizing thoughts like potential let-downs, fear of failure, or setting one's self up for disappointment.
life moves towards whatever is most on one's mind. if the goal is to get out of debt, then one will never get out of debt, cuz debt is what is on one's mind. rather, if the goal is to achieve abundance, wealth, peak health, love, and fulfillment, then one is setting him/herself up for success. - basic law of attraction.
i'm saying too much now. just trying to give you a different point-of-view. "you're gonna win"
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my response to you, dk, is that i absolutely agree. i will win. i just wish it was with this one particular person versus anyone else, and i'm over thinking it.
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"if the goal is to get out of debt, then one will never get out of debt, cuz debt is what is on one's mind. rather, if the goal is to achieve abundance, wealth, peak health, love, and fulfillment, then one is setting him/herself up for success. - basic law of attraction."
Why is it that if getting out of debt is on my mind I can't achieve it, but if I am thinking about falling in love, I can. Am I reading this wrong? Is the idea that thinking about getting out of debt is bad to focus on and therefore causes negative feelings while falling in love is good and causes positive feelings? I have to admit I am a bit lost on this ...Not really important to the overall topic, but I was curious ...
Guess what "indie" British group (which just released their second album last year) has that phrase/mantra in their song.
let me see if i can explain it better. if someone keeps telling themselves, "i need to get out of debt, i need to get out of debt", then "debt" is what is on the person's mind, and makes it very difficult to escape debt. rather, think of ideas like "i want to be a millionaire" and becoming a millionaire is what is in the mind's eye rather debt. once you make a million dollars, the debt should just disappear on its own.
wanting to fall in love is great. if love is what is on ones mind, then the universe should bring love to you. however, if you think like "i'm never going to find love", then you're setting yourself up for a loveless life.
yes, in some ways you are right about filling your mind up with positive self-empowering thoughts rather than negative self-defeating thoughts.
remember that guilt, worry, and revenge are all pointless thoughts and emotions.